Saturday, January 16, 2010

Lemons, lots of them.

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I have never wanted this blog to be about my problems, but rather how to rise above adversity and move on in my life, relying on the Lord for my provision.

That being said that, no one can know about the lemonade if the lemons are never seen. It just looks like sugar water. And my life is definitely not made of sugar water.

I had mediation on Thursday and it did not go well. It was many hours of things that I never thought I would hear my husband say. That should not surprise me, as he continues to live his life in a way that I never would have believed he was capable of when I first began a relationship with him at the tender age of 15.

I don't want to go into all the gory details, but the upshot of the whole thing was, he walked away from mediation because I would not agree to his final offer:

Sell the property now. Give him all the money which he will use to pay off all his debt (the mortgage and his 50,000 dollars in credit cards, his name only) leaving Michael and I with nothing and no place to live. Get a full time job. Put Michael in public school. He would pay 1400 dollars a month for four years and then he's done with me. Keep in mind, his tax returns for the last 6 years have been a gross of 155,000 dollars, and he retains the ability to continue on in that work. Me - I get to start over with no education.

We will now go have this settled in court.

Among the things I realize I will have to deal with are his accusations that I am unfit to teach Michael. That he never wanted Michael to be homeschooled. That I am lazy and do nothing to educate him. That he is deficient educationally, probably several years behind his peers, and that I break homeschooling laws. That he is socially deprived.

There are many other things that I will be having to deal with concerning this in the months to come. I won't blog much about them, as that is not my focus in life. However, I want any reader to understand that my blog name isn't a flippant title, but reality. Each day the Lord helps me to give the lemons to Him and watch Him make lemonade for us.

He prepares a table before me, in the presence of my enemies.
My cup runneth over.
Surely, goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life.

Today, however, is Shabbat. A day of rest and focusing on the Lord's goodness, and the joys of life he has given us in family and friends; what is truly important. We have had some great phone calls with family today and we have some friends coming over to play games and visit.

May your day be blessed!

~Faith

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17 comments:

  1. I don't know you but your honest plea to God and your readers with a sincerity I can't resist, my heart breaks for you. I pray to God, the Almighty, He will give you strength to deal with what you have been given.

    Alice

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  2. You two are always in my prayers. I know everything will work out!
    "And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose."
    Romans 8:28
    Hang in there Faith and Michael!

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  3. Sending prayers! Having been through a court nightmare, let me tell you this...don't worry. :) He's a jerk and it will come through loud and clear in court. Make sure you document, document, document. More later..I am getting kicked off the computer. :)

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  4. Faith, why you and Ds keep having to run up against this. The Lord has something in mind, I just know it and pray that the good in you shines through and the bad(evil influence)in our Dh's shines through as well.

    HUGS, you are in our daily prayers, keep us posted to dates you'll be in court, on those days we'll fervently be praying for you.


    One thing is certain, we ALL will stand before God in judgement and your Dh will have nothing but ashes left. I pray he repents and seeks forgiveness before it's to late.
    Blessings,
    Kelle

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  5. Aww, Faith. This is my first visit, but I am going to have to read through your posts. I am going through this same thing--and I am a divorce lawyer!! Go figure. No one who hasn't been through this can understand how hard it is. I am glad for your belief--the Lord has been with me every step of the way. I have some advice for you, the first being: You no longer know this man. You should know this by now, but it is very hard for this to sink in. Blessings. I'll be back. C

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  6. Okay, I checked out the older posts...whew! Girl, you've been through it. I will pray for you and Michael. I am pleased you are blogging--it's a great outlet, isn't it? Come visit us--my best friend of 50+ years and I co-blog. We'd love to get to know you. C

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  7. Alice,

    Thank you for your prayers. :o)

    ~Faith

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  8. SBF,

    Thank you. One of my favorite verses.

    ~Faith

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  9. Jennifer,

    Thank you. It came through loud and clear in his contempt of court hearing. I pray you are right, and it will do the same at the next hearing.

    ~Faith

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  10. Kelle,

    Thank you. It's that accounting that keeps me praying for my husband. I am very concerned for him.

    ~Faith

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  11. C,

    A divorce lawyer going through it... that had to be full of irony for you. Thank you for your encouragement. I will come over, see your place and say hello. :o)

    ~Faith

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  12. I am really very proud of you Faith. My prayer is that your Judge be shown the clear truth and be given the courage to act upon it. I know it is funny but how shallow and desperate you must be sitting on that kind of debt and being willing to destroy another persons life just to get out of paying what you owe. I am sorry for him. I hope your judge reads your blog. He/She will see a very well socialized boy...and a very happy family...despite the odds..keep strong

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  13. Thanks Sweetheart's,

    I agree. Amazing who he is willing to sacrifice for himself. :o(

    ~Faith

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  14. So sorry,you are in my prayers.You are missed at RR.

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  15. Oh, I'm so sorry & I will be praying for you & your son. Holly

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  16. Faith,
    Praying I am....for you & Michael. Remember, "Truth crushed to the earth rises again." (always!)~W.C. Bryant
    God is on His throne and all IS well!

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  17. Hey Faith! Just catching up...I'm saddened by his accusations...the only thing I can say is share your blog address with the court, they will immediately see how intelligent and ambitious you are and how well you are educating your son! Keep the "faith"...your friends are behind you! Everything will work out for you! :-)

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